Written by Danny.
As the loving husband of your favorite Simple Bites Editor (Aimee), I’ve got the inside scoop on what really happens around here and today, I’m going to spill the beans and tell you one of our family secrets. We have a serious problem in our home, one that could very well lead to instability, sharp words, lost sleep and much, much worse.
Usually when there’s a problem in a relationship, both parties are partially responsible, but this time, I confidently accept no blame. It’s all squarely on Aimee’s shoulders. You see, Aimee alone has a problem. A serious one.
Her doctor has said that she needs to slow down and stay off her feet, but instead, she’s nesting.
Okay, so maybe it’s not so dramatic as all that, but I have come home from meetings at 11:30PM to find Aimee scrubbing pots and pans (the ones in the far back of the cupboard) with a vehemence I have rarely seen. And although we both believe in the benefits of a well-stocked pantry, having enough to fill our backyard bunker until Y3K is a little excessive.
So as it turns out, I’ve had to take my own advice from my previous post on helping, and chip in to do the things that need to be done. Aimee is growing our third child; I’m more than happy to pick up the slack so she can give every ounce of energy to this pregnancy.
Here are some examples of ways that our family is coping with this gestational malady. Perhaps you’re experiencing something similar – a sick spouse, a deadline, or a shift in priorities. If so, here are a few ways to team up with your spouse to equally share the household load.
During the Christmas holidays, we got out our biggest pot, and made a huge batch of spaghetti sauce/chili, which we portioned out and froze. Along with some stews, coconut chicken curry, lasagnas, and pot pies, we have 25 meals stocked away in our chest freezer.
These easy meals will only need a fresh tossed salad and warm loaf of crusty bread to become instant meals for the weeks ahead while we adjust to a newborn. Although Aimee conceptualized and oversaw the production of those meals, I did much of the legwork and washed every dirty dish.
Lists, lists, lists.
Aimee is a FANTASTIC list maker. Me – not so much (but I’m getting better at it every day). I try to anticipate what needs to be done, but it helps to have a list.
If I have a list of stuff that she wants done, I can ensure that any “heavy lifting” ones are crossed off before she gets to them. With that crazy nesting instinct, things can’t just sit on her list, because she’s driven to do them. I need to ensure that I’m just one step ahead.
Also, lists come in handy when you’re stocking the food mentioned above so that you know what you have left once you start drawing from your reserves.
This probably should have been the first one listed, but they’re all so important. Communicate verbally. Send emails. Write lists. Draft plans. Schedule the week. Review all of the above. Together.
We never know when the little one will come, so we’re planning on having all the main stuff done by early February (and hopefully that’s early enough!). If we wait until the last minute, it probably won’t be the end of the world – after all, we’ve already been through this twice before. But for that exact same reason (we have 2 boys now), our family isn’t quite as flexible. The kids are going to have to eat at some point – and I’ll probably be in charge of that.
Actually, Aimee once mentioned that she wouldn’t have time to spoon-feed them at the table if they were taking too long to eat at our family meals. The boys look of concern was genuine as they both heard: Mommy is not going to feed us anymore once the baby comes.
I guess that’s what daddy’s for.
Do you have any suggestions to help us manage this delicate time in our lives?